I noticed that at the end of every episode of the Ellen
Show, she says “Be kind to one another.” That is such a simple message, but she
says it every day- why? She wanted to do something about the bullying that
consistently happens in our culture. Repetition helps people receive the
message.
Recently I saw a quote saying “Everyone is fighting a battle
you know nothing about, so be kind, ALWAYS.” I want to stay away from giving my opinions
and advice in this blog, but this is a good piece of advice.
Sometimes, we see people with children who have various
disabilities, and we feel empathetic towards them. Feeling empathetic is good,
but your empathy does not always need to be expressed. Just a smile can change
the course of day- no need to try to compare experiences or somehow try to
cheer me up by telling me about your uncle, cousin, sister, friend who also has
a disability- that’s not small talk, and really, you don’t know about our
journey. This is not me being negative, it’s just reality. I don’t mind talking
about my son or his CP, but just be sensitive in how you ask questions.
There are lots of kids out there who have disabilities, and
parents are the best advocates and educators. We work hard to give our children
all that they need to live healthy and happy lives despite the medical
diagnoses. However, we are not immune to mean or insensitive comments.
(Sometimes the best intentioned person can ruin a day with their words). Be sensitive,
but most of all, BE KIND!